You are already all smart people who get this when I forget it.  So yes, I know this doesn’t apply to everyone.

But I do.  I do forget.

I forget that doing something nice for someone really is doing something for me.

I forget that doing one small thing to make someone smile does the same for me, even when I’m not going to get anything out of it, and they won’t even know I did it.

I’m struggling through envy and self-doubt and am throwing a bit of a pity party for myself right now.  I’ll either snap out of it and tell you about it soon, or not snap out of it and tell you about it so I can at least laugh at myself soon.

But through all that struggle, I had the opportunity to do something fairly small for someone, and almost chose not to.  Why?  Because of said pity party and feeling like things never turn out, why give to others who already have so much good happening for them, when is it my turn, blah blah blah blah blah.  Yes, fully aware I am a whiny brat.  Working on that.

But I did it.

And as I did it, I remembered that there really is much joy in being the one who can give something.  There really is as much in the giving as the getting.  It probably does me more good than it does them.  And I’m grateful for the chance to do it.

So yeah, let’s be real here.  I’m not over the whiny pity party.  But I’m trying, and I’m a step closer than I was yesterday.

In case you need the reminder (though I imagine everyone reading this to be much bigger and more mature people than me), it’s true.  Giving is {almost} as awesome as receiving.





  1. I agree! It’s like giving a gift to yourself 🙂
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  2. I just drafted a post for the Blogger Pay it Forward link up that talks about this. I totally agree that giving results in a great feeling. It’s just plain good to be nice!
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  3. Such a great reminder, me friend. When we were focusing on Kindness Week a few weeks ago I found I was getting up excited about the day and looking so forward to the things that we had planned.

    Praying for you as you journey through this season of doubt and struggle. I can throw one heck of a pity party, so if you need any help just give me a hollar 🙂

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